Learn to become familiar with your feeling states. Imagine watching yourself as if you were between 18 and 24 months old. Just notice. There is no need to express. Just be and study what this feeling is telling you. Those feelings express the truth of us and navigate our values.
Feeling are triggered in our bodies from a low to high intensity.
LOW STATE——————————HIGH STATE
down——————–SAD——————–miserable
blah——————-discouraged——————–depressed
A body message that tells you that you do not have what you want, need or value.
disappointed——————–HURT——————–crushed
belittled——————–pained——————–destroyed
A body message that tells you that what you want, need or value has been taken away.
uneasy——————–AFRAID——————–terrified
troubled——————–scared——————–desperate
A body message that tells you that what you want, need or value is at risk of being taken away. 
agitated——————–ANGRY———-furious
irritated——————–exasperated——————–hostile
A secondary emotion and body message that tells you that you have the energy to acquire what you want, need or value. 
content——————–HAPPY———-thrilled
pleased——————–glad——————–ecstatic
A body message that tells you that you have what you want, need or value.
How is this feeling information going to help you at work and home? Daniel Goleman wrote in Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, “Emotional intelligence is the capacity for recognizing our own feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves and for managing emotions well in ourselves and in our relationships.”
