But there are other opposites with which we often struggle:
listen or talk
persistent or easy-going
organized or creative
extroverted or introverted
humorous or serious
feminine or masculine
optimism or pessimism
feeling or logical
positive or negative
I was attracted to my hubby because he was a quiet introvert and has a very logical mind. He was attracted to my emotional availability and extroversion. Then the honeymoon period was over. His gifts turned into distant arrogance. My gifts turned into emotional flakiness.
When life is not going well we tend to put personality traits in a good and bad list. We would never do that with night or day and we know that our days have shades of grey (and I’m not referring to a recent best seller). We are better off to exist more comfortably with personality paradoxes and opposites, just like magnets have a negative and positive that join them together. Don’t forget the shades of grey in-between.
Test yourself. See how flexible and comfortable you are with paradox. Look at the lists above and below. Notice what definitions you tend to use to describe any of these personality traits. Notice if you put them in good and bad terms or being useful in certain circumstances, times and places.
listen as snoopy or available
talk as ego-centric or authentically sharing
persistent as pestering or determined
easy-going as unclear or accepting
organized as anal or prepared
creative as chaotic or inventive
extroverted as obnoxious or social