Brene´ Brown’s did it again! She opened my eyes and mind to some new ways of being. Her research into vulnerability, shame and enoughness continue to impress me. Her long title, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are: Your Guide to a WholeHearted Life sums up her thesis. She gives us a formula for living fully with our heads and hearts. [Read more…]
When shame and vulnerability researcher, Brene´ Brown takes on a subject she delves into the questions, facts, data, and outcomes. She also becomes intimate with it. She takes her own reactions, takes them home, observes herself, dialogues with the locals, and participates in counseling with her esteemed therapist. Brown immerses herself in her research and then shares it with the world. Have I become a fan? You, bet!
In 1990, Martin Seligman released his groundbreaking book, Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life. I have occasionally been accused of behaving Pollyannaish or overly optimistic, his work is of interest to me. If you have ever wondered if you lean towards optimism, which in itself is a great way to relieve stress; or if you lean towards pessimism, which is an effective way to increase stress, I encourage you to read on. [Read more…]
In 2012 the shame researcher, Brene´ Brown published Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. I have watched Brown’s interviews with Oprah, her popular TEDTalks, and insightful animations. Her style is down-home, intelligent, compassionate, and deeply personal. Those who can not tolerate seeing others full blown authentic, vulnerable or emotionally transparent, will feel uncomfortable with her work and writing. Yet, in a world full of loneliness, disconnection, misunderstanding, anger, discrimination, and judgment, her message provides a healing anecdote. [Read more…]
Dr. John M. Gottman has trained many marital counselors from Calgary and around the world. I have met a good number of them and they all praise his work. Gottman is described as North America’s most knowledgeable researcher in the area of successful marriage. Yet, I suggest you consider his concepts as described here to be useful in a broader context as in relationships in general. In The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert, he describes his finding after following over 700 couples in seven different studies.
Why is smiling important? It may seem like a trivial facial expression. But a smile can make a positive difference. Indeed, I heard that it has saved people’s lives.
Calgary, AB, Canada
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