It was a marvellous question! Following a presentation at a women’s conference, a participant asked me, “How do I find a mentor?” Who or What is a Mentor? The Oxford dictionary describes a mentor as an experienced and trusted adviser. A mentor is someone you admire, have confidence in, feel safe around, have ‘studied’ (perhaps read their […]
Just this week I saw a Social Media posting from an emerging professional speaker that read in part, “One of my mentors, Patricia Morgan, told me one of the best things I can do is…So look out. Here I come!” I felt honored! Accepting the role of a mentor is one of the most impactful […]
Here are some light hearted ideas to ease internal tension.
Emotional pain showed up years ago at a therapy training session. Those feelings hijacked my focus. When I approached the trainer in a distraught state she looked at me and said, “You do know how to self-regulate, don’t you?” The training content reminded me of something I had done long ago that I regretted and […]
Drama Triangle–The model describes three unconscious and habitual behavioral habits as “roles” which people often play in relationships.
The Empowerment Triangle: There are three healthy alternatives to playing victim, persecutor or rescuer from the Drama Triangle. They are the creator, the challenger and the coach.
It is best to reserve “I feel proud of you” for situations when one person has invested significant amounts of time, energy and expertise into the success of another.
My friend, Donna Wheatcroft offers this summary of Linda Kavelin Popov’s book, A Pace of Grace: The Virtues of a Sustainable Life. Overview: Fifty years after surviving Bulbar Polio at the age of 11, Linda Kavelin Popov was diagnosed with Post-Polio Sequelae, an oppressive fatigue that left her bed-ridden, even robbing her of her breath. […]
Have you ever been involved in an email message bushfire? It starts with one person feeling hurt, dismissed or angry about an email communication. The recipient then reacts with a one up slamming or defensive message. Electronic communication is ripe for communication easily and quickly going sideways. Just look at Susan and Mary’s interchange: Example […]
Many of us have dreams of doing, being and living a different career or life; often times our longing to find our career dream is called a calling. Many of us are restless, after saying only last year, “I love my job.” Maybe it is time to put your dreams into action . . . or […]
Daniel Goleman is the author of Emotional Intelligence: why it can matter more than IQ as well as Social Intelligence: A New Science of Human Relationships published in 2006. In Social Intelligence, Goleman describes research that supports the idea that we, humans, are hard-wired for connection. Overview: Related to the topic of social intelligence, Goleman discusses its […]
We flourish when we use our social intelligence to create strong friendships and a social network. I will never forget the day I called my friend, Ria. I was feeling panicked because one of our adult children’s lives had gone down the toilet. She said, “You’re strong. All you need is someone to hold you […]
