In 1972 our dear sixteen-year-old daughter, Kelly, ran away from home and joined Satan’s Choice biker gang. Kelly was not only a youth at risk, she also acted out on many bizarre and life-threatening behaviors. She acquired forty convictions, many physical wounds, and three children fathered by drug dealers.
Fred, the oldest known goldfish, lived to forty-one years of age. It is a mystery how he survived so long. Unlike Fred, we humans can have a full and vibrant life if we keep breathing outside the fish bowl. That requires us to seize our days, as we age. Yes, join me in growing old, healthy and playful. [Read more…]
It was a pleasant enough social gathering with a diverse mix of guests engaged in light, casual conversation. A young man began to describe how his life would be transformed, fixed, and truly perfect, if only…. He would be happy if only he landed his dream job with an annual salary of $130,000. He presently earns $95,000. He is probably caught in the ‘more money trap’!
My heart was touched. Les and I were sharing dinner and personal stories with our friends, Judy and Tink. Judy Armstrong is an actress, singer, songwriter, and dancer. Years ago, she fell in love with Tink, an actor, singer, dancer, and choreographer. During one glance, I noticed their hands met and caressed. I thought, “I am in the presence of true love.” As Les and I drove home, the warmth of the evening lingered.
One of the most effective ways to strengthen your personal resilience is to explore your childhood wounds. For some people, life as an adult does not look, sound or feel satisfying. They often wonder why they and their lives are a painful mess. That was once true for me before I engaged in counseling and discovered that the root of some of my inappropriate adult behaviors stemmed from my upbringing.