7 Ways for You to Lighten Up
Here are some light hearted ideas to ease internal tension.
How to Relieve Deep Emotional Pain
Emotional pain showed up years ago at a therapy training session. Those feelings hijacked my focus. When I approached the trainer in a distraught state she looked at me and said, “You do know how to self-regulate, don’t you?” The training content reminded me of something I had done long ago that I regretted and […]
How to Stop Your Relationship Drama: Part 1
Drama Triangle–The model describes three unconscious and habitual behavioral habits as “roles” which people often play in relationships.
How to Stop Your Relationship Drama: Part 2
The Empowerment Triangle: There are three healthy alternatives to playing victim, persecutor or rescuer from the Drama Triangle. They are the creator, the challenger and the coach.
“I am Proud of You!” Might NOT Be The Best You Can Say!
It is best to reserve “I feel proud of you” for situations when one person has invested significant amounts of time, energy and expertise into the success of another.
A Pace of Grace: The Virtues of a Sustainable Life – A Guest Book Summary
My friend, Donna Wheatcroft offers this summary of Linda Kavelin Popov’s book, A Pace of Grace: The Virtues of a Sustainable Life. Overview: Fifty years after surviving Bulbar Polio at the age of 11, Linda Kavelin Popov was diagnosed with Post-Polio Sequelae, an oppressive fatigue that left her bed-ridden, even robbing her of her breath. […]
How to Avoid Conflict in Email Communication
Have you ever been involved in an email message bushfire? It starts with one person feeling hurt, dismissed or angry about an email communication. The recipient then reacts with a one up slamming or defensive message. Electronic communication is ripe for communication easily and quickly going sideways. Just look at Susan and Mary’s interchange: Example […]
10 Questions to Analyze Your Career Dream
Many of us have dreams of doing, being and living a different career or life; often times our longing to find our career dream is called a calling. Many of us are restless, after saying only last year, “I love my job.” Maybe it is time to put your dreams into action . . . or […]
Social Intelligence by Daniel Goleman – Book Summary
Daniel Goleman is the author of Emotional Intelligence: why it can matter more than IQ as well as Social Intelligence: A New Science of Human Relationships published in 2006. In Social Intelligence, Goleman describes research that supports the idea that we, humans, are hard-wired for connection. Overview: Related to the topic of social intelligence, Goleman discusses its […]
Friendship, Social Intelligence, and Your Support Network
We flourish when we use our social intelligence to create strong friendships and a social network. I will never forget the day I called my friend, Ria. I was feeling panicked because one of our adult children’s lives had gone down the toilet. She said, “You’re strong. All you need is someone to hold you […]
8 Reasons Not to Delete Negative People from Your Life!
Almost every week I hear a client or others talk about a relationship they might end. “She drives me crazy! She talks negatively about her life, on and on.” Should you ditch the, so called, negative people in your life? According to motivational guru, Jim Rohn, “You are the average of the five people you […]
Resilience to the Ups and Downs in Life
My last month has included a number of significant and insignificant ups and downs. They happen to me, to you and most of us. People say “the ups and downs of life.” Right? But let’s call them downs and UPs. That feels better to complete the cycle on a resilient uplift! Don’t you agree? There […]