Have you ever been involved in an email message bushfire? It starts with one person feeling hurt, dismissed or angry about an email communication. The recipient then reacts with a one up slamming or defensive message. Electronic communication is ripe for communication easily and quickly going sideways. Just look at Susan and Mary’s interchange: Example […]
Many of us have dreams of doing, being and living a different career or life; often times our longing to find our career dream is called a calling. Many of us are restless, after saying only last year, “I love my job.” Maybe it is time to put your dreams into action . . . or […]
Daniel Goleman is the author of Emotional Intelligence: why it can matter more than IQ as well as Social Intelligence: A New Science of Human Relationships published in 2006. In Social Intelligence, Goleman describes research that supports the idea that we, humans, are hard-wired for connection. Overview: Related to the topic of social intelligence, Goleman discusses its […]
We flourish when we use our social intelligence to create strong friendships and a social network. I will never forget the day I called my friend, Ria. I was feeling panicked because one of our adult children’s lives had gone down the toilet. She said, “You’re strong. All you need is someone to hold you […]
Almost every week I hear a client or others talk about a relationship they might end. “She drives me crazy! She talks negatively about her life, on and on.” Should you ditch the, so called, negative people in your life? According to motivational guru, Jim Rohn, “You are the average of the five people you […]
My last month has included a number of significant and insignificant ups and downs. They happen to me, to you and most of us. People say “the ups and downs of life.” Right? But let’s call them downs and UPs. That feels better to complete the cycle on a resilient uplift! Don’t you agree? There […]
To have resilience at work often takes a concerted effort. Resilience helps you manage typical workplace challenges such as: personality differences bullying micro-management being blamed poor leadership criticism demands on your time lack of childcare personal issues such as depression, anger, lack of stress management skills or illness. Here are 12 effective ways to enhance your […]
My colleague Bernie Fitterer from Inspiring Developments specializes in helping fathers adapt to the challenges of their role. Recently, Bernie invited me and three other mothers to an event aimed at fathers. During this event, we were presented with questions from attendees seeking insights from a woman’s perspective. It was a tremendous honor for us. […]
In my daughter Kelly’s and my book, Love Her As She Is: Lessons from a Daughter Stolen by Addictions I describe fourteen ways to love unconditionally with clear boundaries. The first way is take your frustrations to someone you trust. Family Patterns of Feeling Frustrated Life events can often trigger us to feel frustrated. As […]
The Definition of Values Values are deeply ingrained beliefs and principles that guide individuals’ behavior, decisions, and priorities. In this post we will first describe the importance of values and provide of list of values. The Oxford dictionary’s definition of a value is The regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or […]
The Marriage Hack There is exciting news for long term relationships! Dr. Eli Finkel, a professor of social psychology at Northwestern University, and his colleagues noticed that we have come to expect our spouses to fill roles traditionally filled by platonic friends; relationships such as co-workers, neighbours, and friends. This puts unnecessary pressure, and sometimes […]
Adults better influence when children feel a deep sense of connection, bonding, and caring relationship. It is the adult’s responsibility to build that parent-child relationship. In an ideal world, children would have a close physical, attaching, and bonding experience from birth forward. But sometimes this ideal picture is disrupted due to a range of family […]