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It was a marvellous question! Following a presentation at a women’s conference, a participant asked me, “How do I find a mentor?” Who or What is a Mentor? The Oxford dictionary describes a mentor as an experienced and trusted adviser. A mentor is someone you admire, have confidence in, feel safe around, have ‘studied’ (perhaps read their […]
Drama Triangle–The model describes three unconscious and habitual behavioral habits as “roles” which people often play in relationships.
The Empowerment Triangle: There are three healthy alternatives to playing victim, persecutor or rescuer from the Drama Triangle. They are the creator, the challenger and the coach.
We flourish when we use our social intelligence to create strong friendships and a social network. I will never forget the day I called my friend, Ria. I was feeling panicked because one of our adult children’s lives had gone down the toilet. She said, “You’re strong. All you need is someone to hold you […]
Almost every week I hear a client or others talk about a relationship they might end. “She drives me crazy! She talks negatively about her life, on and on.” Should you ditch the, so called, negative people in your life? According to motivational guru, Jim Rohn, “You are the average of the five people you […]
A phone call from Hanna, Alberta prompted me to create a talk called, Merry Love-making: How to Enliven Long Term Intimacy. It has been presented at numerous women’s conferences and a Foster Parent retreat. The women of Hanna wanted to know how to keep a long term relationship exciting, romantic, engaging, and pleasurable. Although I […]
The Marriage Hack There is exciting news for long term relationships! Dr. Eli Finkel, a professor of social psychology at Northwestern University, and his colleagues noticed that we have come to expect our spouses to fill roles traditionally filled by platonic friends; relationships such as co-workers, neighbours, and friends. This puts unnecessary pressure, and sometimes […]
There are health benefits of marriage. I have repeatedly experienced it with my good man! In February my hubby, Les and I headed south in his camper van. It was a beautiful, sunny morning when we arrived at the Arizona Sonora Desert Museum in time to catch the Raptor Free Flight demonstrations of birds-of-prey flying, […]
The dandelion laughed all summer when it failed to be a rose. Heather Johnson People differ. It doesn’t take much study to realize that personality differences exist. You can enrich your relationships when you commit to understanding your individual differences. Here is an example of how understanding preferences can minimize relationship conflict. Example of Personality […]
Too often we forget that none of us were born to only do. We are not our job titles, company positions or our job descriptions. At home we are more than The Mother or The Father, wife or husband, or daughter or son. Those are merely roles. No matter our work we need spaces in-between […]
Haven’t you had a moment, hour or day that you desired recognition? Here we will explore a loving curiosity question. Seldom is there a person who does not long to be seen, heard and acknowledged. Yet, many people feel unseen, unheard, unacknowledged and neglected. In my years of facilitating parent education, family counseling, marriage counseling, group […]
Date night keeps couples’ flames flickering, even sparking. Together, choose a date night that you can keep consistently or you risk letting it go by the wayside. If you have children, hire a standing sitter for the night. Try to get a sitter who drives and pay the sitter well. If finances are a problem, […]