High Performance Relationships by J. Peters – Book Summary

High Performance Relationships is a well-researched, practical, and helpful resource for those ready to mend, deepen, or enhance their relationships. Dr. Peters has systematized a lifetime of self-searching, research, academic work and leadership experience. She is thorough in ensuring her personal perspectives are in alignment with current research, drawing from the fields of communications, career development, psychology, and leadership. This is a must-have reference book, guide, and inspiration for personal and professional improvement.

• Patricia Morgan, award-winning professional speaker, therapeutic counselor, and author of several books, including From Woe to WOW: How Resilient Women Succeed at Work.

Yes! I was honored to review and write a testimonial of Dr. Jacqueline Peters’ 2016  High Performance Relationships manuscript, which was recently published. Here are more details.

Overview:

Dr. Peters’ body of work has long focused on relationships from her work as a leader, trainer, executive coach, academic studies, and as a spouse. It includes personal stories, research,  exercises, questionnaires, and inspiration to inspire you to improve your relationship dynamics.

Basic Concepts:

1. All relationships — whether with your teammates, co-workers, spouse or family, or friends — can benefit from research-based strategies.
2. The number one key to high performance relationships is emotional or psychological safety.
3. The number two key to high performance relationships is having a purpose—a sense of we-ness, and a higher vision or reason to cooperatively relate to each other.
4. The number three key to high performance relationships is structure to our roles and responsibilities.
5. The number four key to high performance relationships is camaraderie, positive, appreciative and playful interaction.
6. The number five key to high performance relationships is repair—the ability to face and resolve inevitable conflicts/disagreements.

Quotes by Jacqueline Peters

1. “We’ve just seen the tip of the iceberg of evidence about the significance of our interpersonal connections in creating the kind of personal and professional success we all aspire to achieve.”
2. “Couples are ‘teams with benefits.”
3. “Having fair and cooperative exchanges with others creates a sense of safety.”
4. “Complaints and requests of what people need, want, or prefer can be constructive. Criticism is just negative.”
5. “The person who asks the questions holds the power.”
6. “A key indicator of team cohesion & performance is the word `we`.”
7. “Defining clear roles and responsibilities is a vital component of successful teams and relationships.”
8. “The most successful couples demonstrated a ratio of about 20 to 1 positive to negative when they were not in conflict.”
9. “We need to load up the light side of our relationships so we can deal with the ‘dark side’ more effectively.”

Summary:

I stand by my testimonial of Dr. Peters’ manuscript; this now published work is a must-have reference! Consider getting a copy of High Performance Relationships and using her building blocks to enhance your relationships. Also, take the time to visit her website at www.inneractiveleadership.ca

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