Rewrite My Story to Rewrite My Life

Rewrite My Story to Rewrite My Life

You are not alone if you are thinking, “I will rewrite my story of doom and gloom to rewrite my life as I wish it.” Good on you! You are among some celebrities.

The well-known, actor, Jim Carrey, came from a family with modest income, until his father lost his job. Carrey and his siblings worked in a factory to pay the bills. It was too much, resulting in Carrey leaving school. For a period, the family lived in a van.

It was in 1985 that Carrey re-wrote his story on a small piece of paper. He wrote himself a $10-million check for acting services rendered and put a date on it 10 years in his future. He kept his new story in his wallet to realize his goal. He continues to be a fascinating figure, living life his way. In 2020 Carrey released a novel, Memoirs and Misinformation.

I Write My Own Life Story!!!

There are several ways to rewrite our past life and the story we tell ourselves about the events and people who helped shape us. Making our unconscious beliefs and thoughts conscious is a good beginning. Then we can choose to craft and re-write our future.

Consider completing the template below. Simply copy and paste it and end the sentence beginning. It will help you tell your story of where you came from and the events that you no longer wish to dwell on. It will help guide you to be honest with yourself and your past. Then you can begin to change your story, your mind, and your life.

Step One: Write out Your Old Doom and Gloom Story

Describe all the events that you no longer wish to dwell on. Take them out of your disturbing memory box and write them out. Complete the sentences below as often as needed.  If you do not know the details, make them up as if your younger self (Inner Child) is trying to make sense of her life. If you want to deepen this experience first view First Steps to Inner Child Work: A Guided Journey. 

As a child, my mother (did, did not do, said):

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• Because of this I decided I . . .
• I have been feeling and behaving like . . .
• But I want to feel, say, and behave . . . 

As a child, my father (did, did not do, said):

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• Because of this I decided I . . .
• I have been feeling and behaving like . . .
• But I want to feel, say, and behave . . .

 As a child, my (other significant and older person) (did, did not do, said):

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• Because of this I decided I . . .
• I have been feeling and behaving like . . .
• But I want to feel, say, and behave . . .

When I was maturing (any person who added doom & gloom) (did, did not do, said):

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• Because of this I decided I . . .
• I have been feeling and behaving like . . .
• But I want to feel, say, and behave . . .

When you are finished writing, check if there are any of these stories you want to put back in the box or whether they have lost their power.

Step Two: Rewrite Your Story to Empower Your Future

Realize that you can change your story. See yourself as the creator of your life. Creating is about realizing that you have choices, rather than falling into default mode. Realize that while you may be limited in changing the world and others, you can change your story.

“I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you are not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again.”
Benjamin Button, Protagonist in the movie, The Curious Case of Benjamin Button.

You can be resilient and rise above challenging times in your past by taking steps toward positive change. Write your renewed story in this moment where All is Well. Write from a conscious, clear, and safe adult perspective.

Consider imagining a wise essence, witness or presence guiding your writing. Who might that person be? Scan your childhood and youth memories for moments with a supportive, compassionate, emotionally safe, and wise influence. For many of my clients that tends to be a grandparent, aunt or uncle, teacher, or a neighbour. For a guided exploration of an inner, wise guide view  How to Develop Your Best Wise-Self: Discover Your Inner Wisdom.

Now rewrite your desired story!

My New Story

 Complete the sentences below as often as needed.

From my childhood and life pain, I have learned I am resourceful and resilient in the following ways:

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In five years, I will have

Demonstrated my gift of (strength) by . . .

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 Demonstrated my gift of (strength) by . . .

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Demonstrated my gift of (strength) by . . .

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(Add as many of these sentences as you want)

I feel (sad, hurt, scared, frustrated . . . happy) about . . .

I want . . .

I do not want . . .

I love . . .

I love it when . . .  

I will ask help to . . .

I will . . .

I will not . . .  

Plus:

1. A dream I have, and will start working towards is . . .
2. The one thing I enjoyed as a child I will do more of is . . .
3. The one and most important way I will love myself is

Finally, in rewriting your story, periodically remind yourself that you can always change your behaviors, your path and even your life. When we forget we have this power, we tend to feel stuck. When we remember “I can write my story,” we have the power to change our future, we feel stronger, more hopeful, and more content.

Note: if this process proved disturbing, consider reaching out to a social agency or helping professional.