Psychologist, Marg Wolf trained many helping professionals, including me. We were interns in the ten-week domestic violence prevention program called, You are Not Alone. Marg provided clear and helpful feedback that made the process easy, doable, repeatable and empowering. Indeed, her performance feedback improved our skill levels! Not once did I experience criticism. I experienced […]
Ready to self-promote? Why would you? You will need to self-promote if ever you want to move up a career ladder or move into a desired position, or land a job or sell your services or product. How do you do it? Self-promotion is the ability to let others know your strengths, capabilities, and accomplishments. […]
Why do we love quotations? Because they are like nuggets of gold; pure thoughts that can improve our thinking, self-perception, and worldview. You will see I favor my mentor and researcher Dr. Al Siebert (1934-2009). He wrote The Survivor Personality and The Resiliency Advantage. Here some famous and powerful resilience quotes: Define Resilience “Resiliency is […]
In 1990 Martin Seligman released his ground breaking book, Learned Optimism. Since I have occasionally been accused of behaving Pollyannaish or overly optimistic, his work is of interest to me.
Do you remember a television show called Kids Say the Darndest Things? It aired from 1998 to 2000. Well, I propose that often times parents say the darndest things. I used to say them myself until I learned to improve my communication skills. Good parenting starts with awareness and then choosing better. Here we will […]
Nancy Loraas, a Calgary-based executive, leadership, and communication coach, sent me a request to fill in a communications questionnaire. As I was filling it in I began to think, “My answers might be helpful to my readers; those interested in effective communication skills.” Consequently, I am sharing Nancy’s questions and my answers. Nancy’s Communication Skills […]
Just as water is home to fish, our conversations are the context or home to our relationships. Sharing and listening are keys to making relationships work. Good communication that creates mutual understanding is even better. Effectively Speak Let us begin with speaking with honesty, kindness, authenticity, and sometimes assertiveness. You have control over the words you choose. […]
Every now and then our relationships could benefit from an examination. Of course, it begins with ourselves. We can check our generosity, honesty, kindness, compassion, appreciation, empathy, and love. As was written in the bible, “The greatest of these is love.” Gary Chapman, the family therapist and author of The Five Love Languages, provides a key […]
The American reporter and humorist, Franklin P. Jones (1908-1980), wrote, “Honest criticism is hard to take, particularly from a relative, a friend, an acquaintance or a stranger.” Like Jones, you may dislike receiving criticism. Logically then, we should also be cautious about giving criticism. I was once given twenty-seven criticisms in the guise of feedback. It […]
For as long as I can remember I love movies about friendship from The Wizard of Oz to ET, to my all time favorite, Beaches with Bette Midler. In 2002, the hot movie of the summer was The Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood based on the book authored by Rebecca Wells. My women friends were abuzz with talk of the […]
Even those of us who are typically considered assertive can have off-guard moments of self-doubt.
Les and I have attended the Banff Couples Conference over 22 times! It’s a wonderful weekend of tried and true relationship advice presented by experts intended to deepen and repair new and old coupleships. You see, we have discovered that coupleships can be strengthened and made more resilient to future challenges, but it takes time, commitment, care, and a […]