Why do we bother to volunteer? What’s the pay off? We ask lots of “what’s in it for me” questions in other areas of our life.
When I attended a presentation by leadership trainer and author, Joan McArthur-Blair, the room was packed. The audience members were primarily career counselors. McArthur-Blair is the co-author (along with Jeanie Cockell) of the book, Building Resilience with Appreciative Inquiry: A Leadership Journey through Hope, Despair, and Forgiveness. After McArthur-Blair’s presentation and reading the book, I […]
As a therapist, I witness people whose lives have fallen apart or have become unbearable to continue as is. I often hear the simple but dreadfully difficult question to answer, “Why?” People naturally long to create meaning from their emotional pain. Resilience is called upon when we face tough situations. We want to bounce back, […]
Teresa said, “Patricia, I would love to read some of your work on dealing with employees who are controlling, easily agitated and off the wall! It seems like my co-worker wants to get even with me for nothing. She starts yelling even if I dare to identify areas that could easily be improved. What are […]
The expectation that we can be immersed in suffering and loss daily and not be touched by it, is as unrealistic as expecting to walk through water and not get wet. Rachel Naomi Remen As a therapist, as well as, sometimes, family caregiver of those with disabilities, there have been times I needed to be […]
Brene´ Brown did it again! She opened my eyes and mind to some new ways of being. Her research into vulnerability, shame and enoughness continue to impress me. Her long title, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are: Your Guide to a WholeHearted Life […]
In 2012 the shame researcher, Brene´ Brown published Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. I have watched Brown’s interviews with Oprah, her popular TEDTalks, and insightful animations. Her style is down-home, intelligent, compassionate, and deeply personal. Those who can not tolerate seeing others full […]
Gult needlessly plagues many people.
Caregiving can be rewarding and exhausting! I know! And I know the importance of caring for the caregiver to avoid burnout. I have done it for pay and for free. Primarily, my caregiving has been, and continues to be, family related. I have had the honor to care for our children, grandchildren, family members living […]
The Oxford dictionary defines enough as an adjective meaning adequate for the want or need; sufficient for the purpose or to satisfy desire. Most often the word enough is used in the context of challenging our cultural greed for endless consuming. This craving for material wealth has created a generation of youth, many who walk and […]
Almost every week I hear a client or others talk about a relationship they might end. “She drives me crazy! Negative talking about her nasty sister, on and on.” Should you ditch the, so called, negative people in your life? According to motivational guru, Jim Rohn, “You are the average of the five people you […]
Last November I attended a pricey, Rah! Rah! event led by well-known motivational speaker, Tony Robbins. I had long admired his writing such as Unlimited Power and Awaken the Giant Within. I imagined the experience might deepen my work in strengthening emotional resilience. And after all, Oprah had attended one of his seminars. Just to […]