Why do we bother to volunteer? What’s the pay off? We ask lots of “what’s in it for me” questions in other areas of our life.
Brene´ Brown did it again! She opened my eyes and mind to some new ways of being. Her research into vulnerability, shame and enoughness continue to impress me. Her long title, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are: Your Guide to a WholeHearted Life […]
In 2012 the shame researcher, Brene´ Brown published Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. I have watched Brown’s interviews with Oprah, her popular TEDTalks, and insightful animations. Her style is down-home, intelligent, compassionate, and deeply personal. Those who can not tolerate seeing others full […]
For as long as I can remember I love movies about friendship from The Wizard of Oz to ET, to my all time favorite, Beaches with Bette Midler. In 2002, the hot movie of the summer was The Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood based on the book authored by Rebecca Wells. My women friends were abuzz with talk of the […]
Children have a moral right to be loved. S. Matthew Lia, New York University If all children have a moral right to be loved, then I and I imagine you have let them down. Absolutely, there have been times I have let my children down in the love department. They were when I was also letting […]
Daniel Goleman is the author of Emotional Intelligence as well as Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships published in 2006. In Social Intelligence, he does a thorough job of describing research that supports the idea that we, humans, are hard-wired for connection. Overview: Related to the topic of Social Intelligence, Goleman discusses its […]
Almost every week I hear a client or others talk about a relationship they might end. “She drives me crazy! Negative talking about her nasty sister, on and on.” Should you ditch the, so called, negative people in your life? According to motivational guru, Jim Rohn, “You are the average of the five people you […]
My colleague, Bernie Fitterer, of Inspiring Developments helps fathers become resilient to the demands of their role. He invited me and three other mothers to an event for fathers. We were provided questions from the attendees to answer from a woman’s perspective. What an honour. We four women sat in front of a semi-circle of […]
Adults better influence when children feel a deep sense of connection, bonding, and caring relationship. It is the adult’s responsibility to build that parent-child relationship. In an ideal world, children would have a close physical, attaching, and bonding experience from birth forward. But sometimes this ideal picture is disrupted due to a range of […]
Over the years I have had clients struggle to know how to start a friendship. They have also not known how to check if the potential companion was emotionally safe. They wanted cues to show them whether to continue investing time in a new connection. After offering them the four steps below most of them […]
Knowing if you are a connector, maven or salesperson can stregnthen your resilience.