8 Gottman Relationship Methods for Lasting Love & Connection Simple, research-based practices to strengthen love over time What makes love last? Decades of research from The Gottman Institute, founded by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, point to a clear answer: strong relationships are not built on grand gestures, but on small, intentional moments repeated over […]
A book summary of Why Can’t I Let You Go? Break Free from Trauma Bonds, End Toxic Relationships, and Develop Healthy Attachments by Michelle Skeen (PhysD) & Kelly Skeen Introduction As a therapist I meet people who know their relationships are unhealthy. Yet they hang onto the belief they can fix themselves or the other […]
As a therapist, I’ve witnessed relationship killers — the quiet, everyday patterns that slowly damage intimacy, trust, and respect. I’ve also witnessed small, thoughtful acts that strengthen them. And, I’ve had my own fair share of relationship challenges. Relationship killers show up in marriages, friendships and even neighbourhoods. I often see in my therapy practice […]
At some point, we’ve all tried to control our relationships, especially with loved ones. Yet, the idea that we can control another human being’s thoughts, emotions, and choices is not only unrealistic but also can create relationship misunderstanding and friction. True personal power, freedom, and connection come from letting go of the illusion of control. […]
A phone call from Hanna, Alberta prompted me to create a talk called, Merry Love-making: How to Enliven Long Term Intimacy. It has been presented at numerous women’s conferences and a Foster Parent retreat. The women of Hanna wanted to know how to keep a long term relationship exciting, romantic, engaging, and pleasurable. Although I […]
Most of my clients seek individual therapeutic counseling to address stress, anger management, or intrusive thoughts, often stemming from childhood abuse and neglect, or generational trauma. However, I feel a special honor when couples choose to confront their relationship conflicts, disconnection, or dissatisfaction. Disconnection in couples can be repaired. The Pattern of Disconnection in Couples […]
The Urge to Fix People is a Common Theme in Counseling Therapy In counseling therapy sessions, a recurring theme often surfaces: the urge to fix people, especially loved ones. Whether in individual or couple counseling, this inclination to alter someone’s behavior or circumstance is a natural response to emotional pain. However, it can hinder personal […]
Sue Johnson’s legacy will live on in her presentations (many available online), the therapists she trained, and the books she wrote, including the practical and helpful, “Hold Me Tight.”
High Performance Relationships is a well-researched, practical, and helpful resource for those ready to mend, deepen, or enhance their relationships. Dr. Peters has systematized a lifetime of self-searching, research, academic work and leadership experience. She is thorough in ensuring her personal perspectives are in alignment with current research, drawing from the fields of communications, career […]
In Real’s book, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, he challenges traditional masculinity, gender role training, and more.
In-law challenges are high on the list of distress to coupleships. It’s hard to have a resilient and intimate partnership if you have to deal with a resentful or interviewing in-law, often the notorious mother-in-law. Regrettably women seem more frequently to have mother-in-laws who are interfering and inordinately critical.
A summary of Norman L. Quantz’s book, It’s All About Power and Control: Why Marriages Fall Apart and What It Takes to Put Them Back Together Again.