In 1990, Martin Seligman released his groundbreaking book, Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life. I have occasionally been accused of behaving Pollyannaish or overly optimistic, his work is of interest to me. If you have ever wondered if you lean towards optimism, which in itself is a great way to relieve stress; or if you lean towards pessimism, which is an effective way to increase stress, I encourage you to read on. [Read more…]
Martin Seligman, the founder of Positive Psychology, studied how pessimists tend to internalize responsibility when circumstances are negative. They tend to think they are worthless, talentless, and unlovable. They say things like, “I’m stupid. It’s all my fault.” They tend to blame others or circumstances outside themselves thinking, “They are so stupid; they don’t know a good thing when they see it.” In contrast, the danger of extreme optimism is the tendency to avoid responsibility for one’s part in an unsuccessful event. However, pessimists’ tendency to regularly and inappropriately accept responsibility is a sure formula for depression.
Flourish is my favorite Positive Psychology book. I am a fan of the psychologist and founder of Positive Psychology, Martin Seligman. I was thrilled in 2009 to attend the first World Congress on Positive Psychology in Philadelphia. Yes, I met him, shook his hand, and even asked him to read and endorse one of my books. That didn’t pan out but I remain a student of his work.