As a therapist, I witness people whose lives have fallen apart or have become unbearable to continue as is. I often hear the simple but dreadfully difficult question to answer, “Why?” People naturally long to create meaning from their emotional pain. Resilience is called upon when we face tough situations. We want to bounce back, […]
Feminism has had a resurgence! No one asked Meghan Markle, now the Duchess of Sussex, “Are you a feminist?” She had made it clear long before saying “I do” to Prince Harry. On her own page on the Royal website is the line, “I am proud to be a woman and a feminist.” The Ups […]
Ready to self-promote? Why would you? You will need to self-promote if ever you want to move up a career ladder or move into a desired position, or land a job or sell your services or product. How do you do it? Self-promotion is the ability to let others know your strengths, capabilities, and accomplishments. […]
A number of years ago, I created a little slide-show called, Have I Told You I Remain A Feminist? At that time numerous people told me, “But the feminist movement is over”. Those who seemed surprised by the word were curious enough to ask, “What is feminism?” Definition of Feminism One of the clearest […]
Gult needlessly plagues many people.
One of the most effective ways to create a healthy mindset is to weed whack your negative self-talk. You know, that head chatter that probably led to a nasty core belief or two. Tackling basic beliefs about ourselves is a daunting task but well worth the effort. Here is a piece of my story. One day while […]
She looked baffled as I asked her about her reaction to a disturbing event. 1. How do you feel? I don’t know. 2. What sensations do you feel in your body? I don’t know. 3. What are you telling yourself? I don’t know. This young woman’s Emotional Intelligence (EQ) was low. Years ago that young […]
To succeed today, you have to set priorities, decide what you stand for. Lee Iacocca We make decisions over and over again…What am I going to wear today? When am I going to take a break at work? Or how about, What’s for dinner? While raising a family, that question became boring and irritating. So […]
Most of us have had our resiliency challenged when we feel resentment for hurtful behavior by others. Perhaps equally as painful is longing for others to forgive our transgressions. Then we are stuck. Those who are wise tell us that our emotional freedom rests in putting forgiveness into action–for ourselves and others! But how? I […]
It is easy to feel grateful when you have health, wealth and leisure time. But having an attitude of gratitude in times of illness, financial struggle and distress is a different story. Here is a headline from December 2015: “The suicide rate in Alberta climbs 30% in the wake of mass oil-patch layoffs.” CBC News […]
Those with a strong internal locus of control believe that they are primarily in charge of their lives. Those with a strong external locus of control believe that they are primarily at the mercy of other people, fate or chance. They often perceive themselves as victims of their situations.
We can turn our life challenges into inner victories.