Most of us have had our resiliency challenged when we feel resentment for hurtful behavior by others. Perhaps equally as painful is longing for others to forgive our transgressions. Then we are stuck. Those who are wise tell us that our emotional freedom rests in putting forgiveness into action–for ourselves and others! But how?
For many of us, it feels as if life is happening to us. We have a sense of being controlled by the events and circumstances outside of ourselves. But the late psychiatrist and author, Viktor Frankl, described how our internal Locus of Control can help us survive challenges, even unspeakable adversity. As a survivor of The Holocaust, he describes his discovery in his book, Man’s Search for Meaning.
Sheepishly I snuck into the freezer to grab some left-over Halloween candy. Was I unable or unwilling to tell myself No? Or did I really want to say, Yes? Yes, you deserve a sweet little treat? Yes, No and It Depends are resiliency building tools that allow us to responsibly make choices. [Read more…]