Dr. John M. Gottman has trained many marital counselors from Calgary and around the world. I have met a good number of them and they all praise his work. Gottman is described as North America’s most knowledgeable researcher in the area of successful marriage. Yet, I suggest you consider his concepts as described here to be useful in a broader context as in relationships in general. In The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert, he describes his finding after following over 700 couples in seven different studies.
My heart was touched. Les and I were sharing dinner and personal stories with our friends, Judy and Tink. Judy Armstrong is an actress, singer, songwriter, and dancer. Years ago, she fell in love with Tink, an actor, singer, dancer, and choreographer. During one glance, I noticed their hands met and caressed. I thought, “I am in the presence of true love.” As Les and I drove home, the warmth of the evening lingered.
Your business and personal success can be strengthened and accelerated through the support of others. Mastermind groups provide a useful structure for such purposes. That has been my experience and that of many of my professional speaking colleagues. I have enjoyed and benefited from a number of mastermind groups–an international one, a personal one, an emotionally focused one and two business focused.
Most of us have had our resiliency challenged when we feel resentment for hurtful behavior by others. Perhaps equally as painful is longing for others to forgive our transgressions. Then we are stuck. Those who are wise tell us that our emotional freedom rests in putting forgiveness into action–for ourselves and others! But how?