The expectation that we can be immersed in suffering and loss daily and not be touched by it, is as unrealistic as expecting to walk through water and not get wet. Rachel Naomi Remen
Our lives are filled with stress and pressure. But what is the difference? Here is an explanation from the book, Performing Under Pressure.
“Every stressful situation — a longer meeting than you expected, the colleague letting you down on deliverables — can start to feel like a pressure situation when, in fact, it is a mild inconvenience that has no impact on the success of your day. Unmanaged, pressure will sabotage our best intentions.”
Weisinger and Pawliw-Fry
For many of us, it feels as if life is happening to us. We have a sense of being controlled by the events and circumstances outside of ourselves. But the late psychiatrist and author, Viktor Frankl, described how our internal Locus of Control can help us survive challenges, even unspeakable adversity. As a survivor of The Holocaust, he describes his discovery in his book, Man’s Search for Meaning.
We were all excited to have signed on for Yes, You Can! an empowerment program developed by Dr. Charlotte Kasl, the creator of The 16 Steps. Her concept of self-empowerment is aligned with resilience, the ability to bounce back from adversity. Kasl’s empowerment model is designed to support individuals in asserting their competence by taking action on their own behalf.
Wanda said, “Too often I feel helpless and powerless. When people ask me for a favour I say “yes” when I don’t want to. Sometimes I end up resenting my friends. My teen kids walk all over me. I say, “no” and then they nag, wear me down and I give in. Sometimes I end up feeling frustrated and say things I feel ashamed of. I even said, ‘Shut up!’ to my daughter the other day. How do I start to take control of my life?”
Endless numbers of books exist telling us how to care for our bodies and emotions, often with “healing” titles and a challenge to make ourselves more resilient and stress hardy. Spirituality is also a hot topic with popular authors such as Marianne Williamson, Deepak Chopra and Shakti Gwain. Daniel Amen, author of Change Your Brain, Change Your Life presents another point of view. He has amassed neuroscientific research in an effort to convince us that in order to positively change our lives, we need to care about our brains and mental capacity, especially getting the negative stuff out! [Read more…]