“Stress is nothing more than a socially acceptable form of mental illness.” Richard Carlson The kids were fighting. The phone was ringing. There was no time for breakfast. I was going to be late for work. I ran out the door with the kids, my coffee, and a headache. That scenario is an example of […]
The expectation that we can be immersed in suffering and loss daily and not be touched by it, is as unrealistic as expecting to walk through water and not get wet. Rachel Naomi Remen As a therapist, as well as, sometimes, family caregiver of those with disabilities, there have been times I needed to be […]
In early May 2016, the Fort McMurray (Fort Mac) fire put Albertans in the midst of a major crisis. Over 80,000 evacuees needed to leave their homes. I have some sense of it all since I was a keynote speaker at the first anniversary of the 2013 Slave Lake fire. These significant events leave us feeling profound grief […]
Our lives are filled with stress and pressure. But what is the difference? Here is an explanation from the book, Performing Under Pressure by Hendrie Weisinger and J.P. Pawliw-Fry. As they write: Every stressful situation — a longer meeting than you expected, the colleague letting you down on deliverables — can start to feel like […]
Those with a strong internal locus of control believe that they are primarily in charge of their lives. Those with a strong external locus of control believe that they are primarily at the mercy of other people, fate or chance. They often perceive themselves as victims of their situations.
When work is pleasurable it feels like play.
The research reported by Professor Shelley E. Taylor and her team at UCLA. In 1998 they began to wonder if women had different reactions to stress than males. By 2000 they reported a phenomenon they called Tend and Befriend.
Have you had days when you thought a sneeze would blow you over? You felt dis-stressed, depressed or plain worn out. I have had days from burnt toast to a family member crashing his car that exhausted me. I’ve asked myself, We can bounce back more easily when we have developed some everyday grit or resilience. The end result of building resilience is that we have increased strength, skills and adaptability to handle life’s pains, strains and challenges. We are able to bounce back.
Daniel Amen, author of Change Your Brain: Change Your Life has amassed neuroscientific research in an effort to convince us we need to care about our brains and mental capacity.