How about downsizing this Christmas? For some people, this upcoming season is filled with oughts, shoulds, musts, and have to’s. After gift shopping, wrapping, card writing, holiday baking, home decorating – inside and outside, bringing home the tree, party hosting and preparation of the turkey feast, many folks are financially, physically and mentally depleted. Indeed, in North America reports of depression increase 15% around and after Christmas. So much for keeping calm to merry on!
It was a pleasant enough social gathering with a diverse mix of guests engaged in light, casual conversation. A young man began to describe how his life would be transformed, fixed, and truly perfect, if only…. He would be happy if only he landed his dream job with an annual salary of $130,000. He presently earns $95,000. He is probably caught in the ‘more money trap’!
You are my sunshine, my only sunshine. You make me happy when skies are gray. I call my granddaughter and hairstylist, Danielle, My Sunshine because she epitomizes this little tune. When I sing that little ditty my mood lifts. When I play music in my head, pound it out on a drum, or listen or clap or dance to it, I am changed.
Our lives are filled with stress and pressure. But what is the difference? Here is an explanation from the book, Performing Under Pressure.
“Every stressful situation — a longer meeting than you expected, the colleague letting you down on deliverables — can start to feel like a pressure situation when, in fact, it is a mild inconvenience that has no impact on the success of your day. Unmanaged, pressure will sabotage our best intentions.”
Weisinger and Pawliw-Fry