When our Benjamin was 15 years old we moved to Calgary. We had no idea he was bullied until one day he came home with a whack of hair cut out of the back of his head. Someone in the seat behind him violated his physical space and dignity. I also learned that the first week he attended school he found a note on his school locker saying, “Go home! Ontario F@$#!” I asked if I had his permission to approach the school. “No!” he said. He wanted to try working things out on his own first. He put a plan in place and it worked out. He developed a support group of friends which made a difference that changed it all. Once we know our children are safe, we need to not do for them what they can do and want to do for themselves. It empowers their competence.
Regrettably, discrimination and harassment continue in our workplaces, organizations and communities. Regrettably, there are places, times and people with whom we need to assert our rights. But are we clear on what those rights are?
Read through the following list and mark each item that you need to incorporate into your work day. Ask yourself, “Why haven’t I believed I have this right? What am I afraid will happen if I assume this right?” Visualize yourself having this right and notice how you feel. Then act on it.